What causes us to need people to like our posts? Why are their people who must like every post they see? Why do we get upset if we don’t get a lot of likes on our posts? How much do you care? I tend to be on Facebook more that LinkedIn, and LinkedIn more than Instagram. Then when it comes to snapchat, I just don’t find it in my wheelhouse of following. Don’t get me wrong my kids set me up on Snapchat I just don’t find the use of it. Maybe, it is just to young of an app for me to care.
When it comes to me, I like what I like but I don’t feel the need to like everything I see. At some point I think I am on here to much and put my phone away, leave it in another room, or log out of the social media apps. It does drive me crazy when I see folks like everything, makes me think they must be bored or feel they are missing out if they don’t.
I found on medium.com information that leads to issues always watching your social media. It talks about that little rush you get when your post gets more likes than normal? There is a reason for that rush. Dopamine. For every thumbs-up or heart we get a little psychological high through a shot of dopamine. The more likes the more shots. The more shots we have, the more shots we want. And we’re in a loop. The study also demonstrated that people are more likely to engage with posts that have been endorsed/liked by a large amount of their peers — a follow the crowd mentality.
It makes sense to walk away from the social media platforms and go for a walk, have a bite to eat somewhere, enjoy interaction with people you know and engage in a conversation with a stranger. Get your dopamine in other ways. I will still click the like button when someone post’s something funny, I just need to make sure I keep myself in control of my finger. This can build your self-esteem and cause less stress in the end. I am not saying walk away forever, but for me it is to find time to just put down the phone, tablet, smart TV’s, and computers. We can all take a minute to breath in a bit of personal self-esteem, I know I sure need to.