Can you do things alone?

I would love to say that I am able to jump in my car head over to a restaurant eat a good meal, and then take in a good movie. Well I am not really that easy going. I find that I have issues with myself being in public where families, couples, friends all go.

When I was younger, I would look at single folks coming to functions as odd. How sad it would be to not have someone to enjoy things with. Now I am at the age of who gives a damn. I have started to see the flaws in my previous thoughts and when my friends couldn’t join me for a marathon over the weekend, I came up with reasons to get out of it. Then the day came for the race and I realized I will be alone at some point so push through it and go. I looked like a fish out of water as there were groups and some with another. Here I was looking out of place, but I push through. I had strangers take a couple of pictures so I could commemorate the event, realize I didn’t die, but thought it would have been a bit more fun with a friend or two. Next time. This is the first step to knowing I can go out and not feel so self-conscious, I will say I want to never be alone as a general choice.

Can we as humans live alone, no. Can we as humans be so needed that we can’t do one thing alone, I want to say no, I am sure some people feel this way. Let us all find a happy balance. Not being able to do things alone is as much of a problem as not wanting to be around other people. Either stance means you need to learn about yourself, how to enjoy others and yourself. I am comfortable in my own skin and being alone, I am now learning I don’t need to be with someone to go out and have fun, I don’t need to wait for another person to join me.

I will say I still enjoy company but won’t die if I do things out and about alone. I am and will always be a work in progress but in the meantime, I am going to do another 5k alone, if no one else can join. Enjoy finding your own company worth the time to work on.

Your Pet Will Change Your Mood

Nia is my current pet; I have had her since she was 6 weeks old and I am her person. She is a bit nuts and possessive. I am on the market for a dog trainer, even though I have taken her through puppy training she needs a personality trainer. Not sure what they are called but she needs to be calmer when others are around me including the other dogs in our house. No matter what, Nia helps me with my mood, when I am feeling sick, and she just is always there as my best friend. Amazing we can call our pets our best friends.

Pets spend their life with us being our companion and dogs always want to please us. My dog follows me everywhere and I don’t seem to be able to escape her. However, I like having a pet want to be around me, she keeps me calm and helps me when PTSD, depression, or anxiety hits.

I have always been around pets, my parents always had them around. My mom was an avid cat lover while my father loved both cats and dogs.

Dogs have the innate ability to understand many words that we say and even more importantly they are in tune with the tone our voice, our behaviors, and can sense our moods. Therefore hospitals, VA hospitals, rehabilitation centers, some prisons, and assisted living homes plans have dogs and sometimes cats come to comfort the people in the facilities. The fact that they can help with moods and can increase happiness, and mental and physical health.

Outside of a typical cat or dog there are other animals and people that find them as their comfort. Now we can’t have an elephant in our back yard but if you go to Thailand you can enjoy their connection and empathy they have with humans. Outside of a large animal such as an elephant some animals people have in their homes are horses, pigs, reptiles, and pretty much any other domesticated animal. It is amazing that people can be closer to an animal than they can to another human. talks about why these animals make such an impact on our lives.

Studies have found that:

•Pet owners are less likely to suffer from depression than those without pets.

•People with pets have lower blood pressure in stressful situations than those without pets. One study even found that when people with borderline hypertension adopted dogs from a shelter, their blood pressure declined significantly within five months.

•Playing with a dog or cat can elevate levels of serotonin and dopamine, which calm and relax.

•Pet owners have lower triglyceride and cholesterol levels (indicators of heart disease) than those without pets.

•Heart attack patients with pets survive longer than those without.

•Pet owners over age 65 make 30 percent fewer visits to their doctors than those without pets.

•While people with pets often experience the greatest health benefits, a pet doesn’t necessarily have to be a dog or a cat. Even watching fish in an aquarium can help reduce muscle tension and lower pulse rate.

One of the reasons for these therapeutic effects is that pets fulfill the basic human need for touch. Even hardened criminals in prison show long-term changes in their behavior after interacting with pets, many of them experiencing mutual affection for the first time. Stroking, hugging, or otherwise touching a loving animal can rapidly calm and soothe you when you’re stressed or anxious. The companionship of a pet can also ease loneliness, and most dogs are a great stimulus for healthy exercise, which can substantially boost your mood and ease depression.

No matter the reason we have animals it is always great to see faces of others snuggling up to a furry, and sometimes not furry, pet. Nia is my furry friend and I believe if you have a pet you can be less stressed and help with your mental and physical health.

Making Joy in All Types of Weather

As I sit here listening to the rain, I don’t get sad I get happy. I love the smell, the sounds, the cool water as it comes down on me like a blanket. In Arizona we don’t get enough rain, trees, grass, and blooming flowers. I have lived all over the world and I would say having four seasons creates different types of joys.

I enjoy the summer for a month or two, but I do love watching the trees turning color, snow drifting across the branches, and then the blooms sprouting up as the spring brings a new day.

I am sharing some of my favorite pictures that depicts joy through mother nature.


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With the year sparking emotions that are hopefully good, think of how mother nature puts a smile on your face!

Gift Drawing Coming Your Way

I love giveaways, contests, and anything that lets me try new things. I don’t think everyone feels this way but I defiantly think I will see what I can do to give a bit of happiness to my followers and to those wanting to follow me. Now comes the fun part, what to do and how to do it!

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I was sitting with a friend today who started a work from home business, she designs her own tapestries and has made a name for herself. She just fell into this by having made some for her family and friends. She then posted on Instagram what she has done. The next thing that she saw happening is one person told another and so on. For her it started as a hobby and now it is allowing her to work from home and raise her kids. I think many people are excited when they can create things for others, especially when they are the ones creating the item from scratch. She has been able to grow her base because they are one of a kind, because she has a great number of followers, and because she started out doing giveaways to help spread her gift to those around the world.

Because I am here to share my life stories and to help those with concerns, miss conceptions, and another perspective with mental and physical health. Because of this I will be giving away a surprise item (Will be shared next week). This will be for new followers, and a separate giveaway for those who are already following my blog.

Stay tuned for more details and let your friends and family know, new followers will be submitted into a gift drawing.

Singing Until the Cows Come Home

Who sings? Well, I can’t sing a lick. I try and then I shiver if I think anyone has heard me. I turn up the music, sing up a storm, and it sounds great in my own ears. I am intrigued to know how many people in our big world can carry a tune. To me, I am pretty sure there are more shower & car singers than the real deal. I would say the real deal are the ones who can belt out a tune knowing that if they played it back would either laugh or hide under a blanket.

So, what is my idea of good music, one might ask. Anything with a good beat and vocals. I am not a true hard rap or screaming rock gal. Pull up a good classic rock, a great R and B, or even a bit of country. I can even say I enjoy Jazz, Pop Rock, and even some classical.

Always curious as to why someone picks a style and what it means? I was raised on classical. When I was an early teen, I was all about classic rock. The rock side was developed from high school. My friends weren’t in clicks, we were brought together by our own walk.

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What caused me to move into the R and B world? Prince, Andre Simone, Jacksons, Michael Jackson, and so many more. This has developed into a true love with the 70’s and 90’s is my true joy. How interesting I decided to say country. This is a new endeavor.

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I find that the words and what the meanings stand for hit home for me. This leaves me with the idea of why the music industry isn’t crossing over more. That might seem taboo, but I am okay with it.

If you want to leave a comment leave it with a genre or a group, you would sing to until the cows come home.