Do You Need Likes On Your Social Media?

What causes us to need people to like our posts? Why are their people who must like every post they see? Why do we get upset if we don’t get a lot of likes on our posts? How much do you care? I tend to be on Facebook more that LinkedIn, and LinkedIn more than Instagram. Then when it comes to snapchat, I just don’t find it in my wheelhouse of following. Don’t get me wrong my kids set me up on Snapchat I just don’t find the use of it. Maybe, it is just to young of an app for me to care.

When it comes to me, I like what I like but I don’t feel the need to like everything I see. At some point I think I am on here to much and put my phone away, leave it in another room, or log out of the social media apps. It does drive me crazy when I see folks like everything, makes me think they must be bored or feel they are missing out if they don’t.

I found on medium.com information that leads to issues always watching your social media. It talks about that little rush you get when your post gets more likes than normal? There is a reason for that rush. Dopamine. For every thumbs-up or heart we get a little psychological high through a shot of dopamine. The more likes the more shots. The more shots we have, the more shots we want. And we’re in a loop. The study also demonstrated that people are more likely to engage with posts that have been endorsed/liked by a large amount of their peers — a follow the crowd mentality.

It makes sense to walk away from the social media platforms and go for a walk, have a bite to eat somewhere, enjoy interaction with people you know and engage in a conversation with a stranger. Get your dopamine in other ways. I will still click the like button when someone post’s something funny, I just need to make sure I keep myself in control of my finger. This can build your self-esteem and cause less stress in the end. I am not saying walk away forever, but for me it is to find time to just put down the phone, tablet, smart TV’s, and computers. We can all take a minute to breath in a bit of personal self-esteem, I know I sure need to.

In Order to be Happy Can You Do It Alone or Do You need to be With Others?

At times I sit around my house, after cleaning, cooking, and doing a bit of binge watching a favorite series. This weekend it was Mayans M.C. and I just got hooked. After it was all said and done, I sat here wondering why I don’t have special one, or at the very least allow a special someone in my life. Am I so stuck in my ways that I don’t need anyone? As my kids become adults, I realize that they are starting their own families and when they aren’t around, I will be alone. Can I survive alone? Can I create happiness alone? Do I need to let my guard down and start to be more willing to let others into my life?

My generation has been endowed with more women that men, thus creating a shortage of men that will be available, faithful, and basically my type. After I find that pool of eligible bachelors, I then must look at the fact that most of them believe it is important to have a woman that is younger than them by at least half their age. It isn’t that I haven’t been approached by someone younger, I just want someone in the age bracket of no more than 4-5 years either direction. I don’t want to date someone my kids age.

Happy by myself for no or ever will be determined who comes into my life. I was raised to move from place to place, as my dad was an Airforce Pilot. I have found being close to any, friends, a lover, or some family was easy to move away from and not bat a second eye. Then there are some who I spend time away from but still have in my life. Outside of my children I never had family or friends that I had to talk to daily. I think it would be great to have some folks to talk to, text, hand out with, email or even the old fashion mail. I think I can do that, but I never actually follow through. Funny how things on the other side seems so much better, as the adage goes, the grass isn’t always greener on the other side.  

For those that need to always be around someone, I do know people that need this ever need for human interaction. People I know would rather been with another even if they are unhappy. I have some friends that need to be in relationships that they will go from one to another because they feel lost or depressed without. Am I in agreement? I don’t understand this, but it doesn’t mean it is wrong. I think they will have a better chance on living longer, if these are healthy relationships.

I guess after all of this, I am happy, for the most part, being alone, however, I think I can be just as happy with another. I will try to stay in contact with family and friends, but my dogs and kids do take my time away from picking up the phone. Hmmm, that could just be an excuse, but I live by it. How about the rest of you?

Damn this Thyroid of Mine!

Up until I was in my late 40’s I was considered to have hyperthyroidism, however, I am now dealing with hypothyroidism. I have medication that I have to take. The problem is I don’t go to the doctors like I should. I must now get a doctor appointment to refill my prescription and anyone that knows me understands that I do not like the doctors. I have had to see them more than not through out my life. I will say I am making an appointment because now I am exhausted to just be up. Having a pacemaker because my heart rates drops to the low 30’s with a very low blood pressure I am just setting myself up to be back in the hospital. If anyone has noticed throughout my posts, I am very hardheaded and want to do what I want to do on my time. Which includes making decisions with my body, even as it fights back.

Let me talk about the differences first.

With hyperthyroidism you can have shaky fingers when extended, warm and moist skin, overactive reflexes, and eye concerns.

Based on Endocrinweb.com, some of the common tests used to diagnose hyperthyroidism

•Thyroid-stimulating hormone (TSH) produced by the pituitary will be decreased in hyperthyroidism..

•Thyroid hormones themselves (T3, T4) will be increased.

•Iodine thyroid scan will show if the cause is a single nodule or the whole gland.

With hypothyroidism you can be lethargic, can’t lose, weight, have cold feet and hands, and have mood issues.

Based on Mayoclinic.org, Hypothyroidism signs and symptoms may include: •Fatigue

•Increased sensitivity to cold

•Constipation

•Dry skin

•Weight gain

•Puffy face

•Hoarseness

•Muscle weakness

The biggest issue is to have either hyper or hypothyroidism. With out taking the right precautions and dependent on the TH levels you could become sick or more importantly effect other parts of your body. It is amazing that such a small gland within your throat can affect your heart, eyes, brain, and many other areas.

I have given a small rundown of why I am talking about thyroid issues, some things that happen and what to look for, if you want to make an appointment you can always try (in some US states and I am not sure Internationally) your local doctor, the Mayo clinic and Kaiser Permanente. With international people viewing this post, check with a local doctor. Remember there are always similar signs that might lead to something else or absolutely nothing.

I can only suggest having yourself diagnosed. Now, I get to crash because staying awake is just too difficult with my thyroid being out of whack. I will post when I get the medication. Actually, I am sure everyone will know because I will be posting some upbeat information and thoughts.

How Can I Help?

Being a family member or a friend of someone who has mental health issues can become overwhelming. How do we become involved in the healing, caring, or to stop enabling those who are being self-destructive? Where can I go to get help, what do I need to know, or how to I keep myself and family protected from someone with a mental health issue? Such a simple set of questions but to many answers can be found. I want to give some scenarios and then what can be done to help. All definitions come from Mayo Clinic’s website, http://www.mayclinic.org. Knowing firsthand how mental health concerns can cause distance between those you love and have family and friends that have mental health concerns guides me to continue to talk about the ways to help and watch for signs. Below are the definitions of six disorders.

Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD): A mental health condition that’s triggered by a terrifying event — either experiencing it or witnessing it. Symptoms may include flashbacks, nightmares and severe anxiety, as well as uncontrollable thoughts about the event.

Suicide: taking your own life, is a tragic reaction to stressful life situations — and even more tragic because suicide can be prevented. Whether you’re considering suicide or know someone who feels suicidal, learn suicide warning signs and how to reach out for immediate help and professional treatment. You may save a life — your own or someone else’s.

Bipolar disorder: Formerly called manic depression, is a mental health condition that causes extreme mood swings that include emotional highs (mania or hypomania) and lows (depression). Episodes of mood swings may occur rarely or multiple times a year. While most people will experience some emotional symptoms between episodes, some may not experience any. Although bipolar disorder is a lifelong condition, you can manage your mood swings and other symptoms by following a treatment plan. In most cases, bipolar disorder is treated with medications and psychological counseling (psychotherapy).

Schizophrenia: A serious mental disorder in which people interpret reality abnormally. Schizophrenia may result in some combination of hallucinations, delusions, and extremely disordered thinking and behavior that impairs daily functioning and can be disabling. People with schizophrenia require lifelong treatment. Early treatment may help get symptoms under control before serious complications develop and may help improve the long-term outlook.

Depression: Feeling sad or hopeless and lose interest or pleasure in most activities. When your mood shifts to mania or hypomania (less extreme than mania), you may feel euphoric, full of energy or unusually irritable. These mood swings can affect sleep, energy, activity, judgment, behavior and the ability to think clearly.

Generalized anxiety disorder: Has symptoms that are like a panic disorder, obsessive-compulsive disorder and other types of anxiety, but they’re all different conditions. Living with generalized anxiety disorder can be a long-term challenge. In many cases, it occurs along with other anxiety or mood disorders. In most cases, generalized anxiety disorder improves with psychotherapy or medications. Making lifestyle changes, learning coping skills and using relaxation techniques also can help.

If you or you find your friend or a family member is not being themselves, it’s best to not get upset with them. Each of us have our own issues and we need to remember this.

NAMI of Arizona (or any US State)

About NAMI

Who We Are:

NAMI, the National Alliance on Mental Illness, is the nation’s largest grassroots mental health organization dedicated to building better lives for the millions of Americans affected by mental illness. What started as a small group of families gathered around a kitchen table in 1979 has blossomed into the nation’s leading voice on mental health. Today, we are an association of more than 500 local affiliates who work in your community to raise awareness and provide support and education that was not previously available to those in need.

What We Do:

NAMI relies on gifts and contributions to support our important work:

We educate. Offered in thousands of communities across the United States through NAMI State Organizations and NAMI Affiliates, our education programs ensure hundreds of thousands of families, individuals and educators get the support and information they need. We advocate. NAMI shapes national public policy for people with mental illness and their families and provides volunteer leaders with the tools, resources and skills necessary to save mental health in all states.

We listen. Our toll-free NAMI HelpLine allows us to respond personally to hundreds of thousands of requests each year, providing free information and support—a much-needed lifeline for many. We lead. Public awareness events and activities, including Mental Illness Awareness Week and NAMIWalks, successfully fight stigma and encourage understanding.

NAMI works with reporters on a daily basis to make sure our country understands how important mental health is. NAMI is National Alliance of Mental Illness. I have family and friends that are connected through knowing someone who is getting help and someone needing help!

Quotes About Strengths From Some of the Greats

I think about when I am happy, sad, mad, and so on and the things that drag me out of any of the negative and help keep me or put me in very positive feelings. The strength I get are from friends and quotes from some great people. I would like to share some of these sound and profound words. Just maybe the words will help you too. All of the words will have the original authors names and any I have created will have mine.

“I believe in being strong when everything seems to be going wrong. I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls. I believe that tomorrow is another day and I believe in miracles.” – Audrey Hepburn

“I find that the heaviest of stones are brushed away with the touch of a feather when you are given the strength to survive.” – Rebbie T.

“Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars.” – Khalil Gibran

“With the new day comes new strength and new thoughts.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

“Do not pray for an easy life. Pray for the strength to endure a difficult one.” – Bruce Lee

“Strength doesn’t lie in the weight of a stone but in the weight of your heart.” – Rebbie T.

“This is no time for ease and comfort. It is time to dare and endure.” – Winston Churchill

“If you have no struggles, you’ll have no strength. Tim Fargo

“Mental illness doesn’t make you less of a person, it makes you stronger than a person who doesn’t understand how you will always have more endurance to survive.” – Rebbie T.

“Make up your mind that no matter what comes your way, no matter how difficult, no matter how unfair, you will do more than simply survive. You will thrive in spite of it.” – Joel Osteen

“Being mentally strong doesn’t mean you won’t feel afraid. Instead, mental strength is about feeling afraid and doing it anyway.” – Amy Morin

“When you see a storm don’t run from it let the storm roll over you because you strength will create a rainbow at the end.” – Rebbie T.